It’s a common scenario: you meet someone special, fall in love, and envision a perfect marriage. The excitement of the “getting-married” phase is dreamy and exhilarating, but the reality of “staying-married” can pose challenges.
We understand marriage.
Marriage is complex. We’ve experienced its highs and lows.
However, marriage has the potential to be vibrant, beautiful, and deeply meaningful. It can be a truly wonderful experience for everyone involved.
We have never met a couple who hasn’t had their ups and downsides. We’ve learned some important principles about marriage as we have traveled together through life. These keys are what we call the “6 Pillars” to fostering a happy relationship. This is an overview of how each of these six pillars can nurture your marriage today.
6 Keys for a Happy Marriage
Little Things Everyday you can choose to take care of the small things that make your marriage work. Picking up your socks and kissing goodbye to your wife as she leaves for work are all little things. So is washing dishes, buying his favorite cereal from the grocery store or leaving a sticky note hinting of a fun evening in bed. Be intentional in showing your love and loyalty to each other and you will see how much better and stronger your marriage becomes.
Date night — You and your partner need to spend a romantic evening together on a regular schedule in order to renew the romance of your relationship. Focus on one another. To talk. To talk. Have fun. To make memories. Ask your partner out if you haven’t done so in awhile. Go on a date together. Open her door. Grab his hand. Enjoy each other’s company without your smart phone. You’ll both look forward to a regular date night.
Intimacy– The importance of intimacy in any form is crucial to the cohesiveness and happiness of a marriage. Your spouse and you know every detail about one another. It is possible to be vulnerable and honest with your spouse. While feeling loved and safe, you can both be transparent. Marriage is most wonderful when you can be yourself with your partner.
Live by – Marriage is all about growing. You have to strive for improvement every single day. You’re sure to be successful when both partners are committed to becoming the best versions of themselves and make sacrifices to achieve this. A healthy marriage is built on shared values. How long has it been since you’ve told your partner everything you admire about them? What are their strengths and characteristics that make your marriage so special? You will see a huge difference when you and your partner focus on what you both have in common, such as trust and honesty.
Rituals & Routines– You may not be aware of the routines in your marriage. Think about the things you do together – your nicknames, special places, how you mark birthdays, anniversaries and the way that you say goodnight before going to bed. These bedtime routines are just a few examples of how couples can be consistent and intentional about their marriage by following routines.
Resolution of Conflict When people marry, there is bound to be conflict. There will likely be differences in opinions, or habits that annoy each other. conflict can bring you together and teach you how to listen. It will also help you see where you need to improve in your life. You will be challenged to give up your own interests, sacrifice for others, and let respect and love guide your marriage. Marriage can be a sweet experience when there is conflict. It allows both partners to forgive, forget and love each other. ).
Marriage is important to us! It’s important that you cherish your marriage! Your marriage requires constant care to maintain love. You will be amazed at how much more meaningful and beautiful your marriage will be when you apply these six principles.