Mastering effective communication can become your ally in fostering understanding and deepening attraction with your partner. This skill has the transformative power to convert uncertainty into security, misconceptions into clarity, and apprehension into confidence. Communication forms the cornerstone of every successful relationship.
Picture this: You’re in an intimate relationship, yet a subtle unease lingers. The uncertainty surrounding the relationship’s trajectory leaves you feeling insecure.
Here’s the interesting part. Women, in particular, often think they are good communicators because they express their thoughts. Many of us share our emotions first in the hope that our partners will reciprocate. This can result in a communication error – sharing your feelings first before your partner.
What is the importance of communication in relationships?
Men don’t operate the same way as women when it comes to emotions. If they are acting distant or withdrawn, sending them your feelings might not have the desired effect. It might actually push them away.
Talking endlessly about yourself is not the way to truly understand what a man feels. You need to know how to effectively communicate with him. You will learn to communicate effectively with him in the Convinced in Love Pillar 4: Cultivate connection.
Another common mistake is to expect the relationship to progress naturally towards commitment, without having clear communication. It is an invitation to disappointment.
Scenario 1: Instead of having a conversation with your partner, you decide to wait and see if they catch on. It can lead to frustration, unmet expectations and a prolonged period of time.
Scenario 2: Although you know what you want in a relationship, you choose to pretend that you are happy with an informal arrangement when, really, you desire more. It can result in suppressed feelings and ultimately unhappiness.
You know that these situations can lead to a relationship breakdown if you find yourself in them. Your partner is oblivious of your wishes, you feel unfulfilled and unable to communicate your needs. Both parties are left feeling disappointed and frustrated.
What’s the real issue here?
It’s fear.
How can we overcome this fear to have an open, honest and effective dialogue with our partner?
Honesty is the answer.
It is important to be honest, particularly in dating and relationship situations. Being completely honest and open feels great. Honesty can bring you and your partner closer, even when it seems like the opposite.
The way you express your feelings and thoughts is important. It could be interpreted as positive and constructive, or negative and critical depending on the way you express it.
Bottom line, it is okay to let your partner and yourself know what you’re thinking. It’s actually a necessity. You can also tell your partner when their actions don’t match your expectations.
Communication is the key.
You cannot fake your belief; no matter how deeply you love your partner, you must truly believe you will achieve the results you want.
What I refer to as Confident In Love. Be confident that you can attract the relationship and keep it healthy. You will become overly attached and analyze every interaction if you don’t know if the relationship is possible. Your partner may feel your anxiety as you do everything to keep this relationship going.
Your partner is not scared of honesty. When you communicate what you feel or think, you can unknowingly send a negative vibe to your partner. Some partners will clam up and withdraw when they feel anxious.
The men actually want women to be honest and upfront with who they are, what they desire in a relationship, etc. It’s important to understand and in order to be able to communicate with your partner without coming across as pushy or entitled, or feeling anxious or desperate. You’re doing the right thing if you can communicate with your partner in a manner that allows them to feel valued and respected, without feeling pressured.
The Key to Relationships is Communication. This superpower can turn fear and uncertainty into trust. This superpower can only be unlocked by being honest. It is important to learn how to express your needs so that they serve you as well as your relationship.