Burnout is a common experience across various aspects of life. It can stem from intense involvement in political or news-related matters in the USA. Similarly, if you’ve been active on dating apps, you might be familiar with the phenomenon of online dating burnout.
What does it mean to experience fatigue from using dating apps?
Nearly every person who tries online dating encounters and must navigate through the exhaustion that often accompanies it at least once during their search for love. It can turn even the most optimistic of people into a pessimistic, snarky dater if it is not handled properly. Burnout can make you lose your positive outlook. It is easy to feel hopeless, and to dread logging in to your profile to view your new matches. Many people give up online dating when they become so burned out. Logging back in to a dating application becomes too stressful.
You don’t need to burn out in order to meet someone online. It can even be the turning-point for many people to prepare for success in online dating. What I recommend when it comes dealing with dating fatigue.
Stop your search to avoid online dating burnout
It is a common misconception that online dating involves a numbers-based game. You have to work hard to be successful. Your perfect match might be just one swipe away. WRONG! The dating industry uses this sense of urgency to keep you engaged and to buy more services. The idea that “the one” exists is not true. Too many of my clients have found love after they lost a spouse with whom they had been together for over 30 years. You don’t get only one chance to fall in love, and you will miss it if you aren’t vigilant.
Take care of yourself first before you can help others. If you feel overwhelmed by online dating then stop. You can take a week or a month to focus on the other aspects of your life which make you happy. You will find a miserable partner if you search for a partner when you are unhappy. You will find a partner when you return, but it is important to have the right attitude.
Speak to an impartial person about what is going on
You can always count on your friends and family to provide you with great advice. They want to do what is best for you. Despite this, they don’t always have the best dating advice. This is partly because their advice isn’t objective. Their advice is based on all the experiences they have had with you. Their advice doesn’t always reflect what you need, but rather what they believe is best. Their idea of what they think you need is often not what you want or need.
Getting an objective opinion from a third party can help you when you feel burned out by dating. You could talk to a dating coach, like myself, or your therapist. If you don’t already have a therapist, there are many services that provide affordable teletherapy. If you go to a local bar often, the bartender may be the perfect objective voice for you. A third objective voice can be a great option because it is less likely to hurt your feelings, as we do not have any prior relationship with you. We are also more concerned about the objective truth rather than steering you in the direction that we would like you to take.
Ask someone to review your profile and make sure you aren’t getting in your own way
Your friends and family will not be able to give you the best advice about your dating profile. Each person has their own opinion of who you are, and what you want based on how they see you. They all have their dating philosophy, which is usually unhelpful. A third-party objective can review your profile from the outside and tell you where the problems are. This objective perspective may help you combat your online dating burnout.
The jokes you put in your profile might be funny to your friends, but they may not make sense to a stranger. It can even be seen in your photos. You can start with the little things, like how you stand or your clothes, or whether your friends are used to you not smiling in photos. It can be helpful to have someone who is not involved in your life review your photos and profile.