Or when it happened. I’m not sure how it happened. It could have been happening since time began and I’ve never been around to witness it. Women who ask or expect their husbands to assist them have been labelled as being nagging.I don’t like that word. Nagging You’ll find a picture of a woman yelling and waving her arms in the air, with a man scurrying to the side.
This gives off the impression that we’re angry, and complain in a way that seems almost offensive. It gives the impression that what we need is unimportant and useless. The Urban Dictionary has 20 words that are related to “nagging”, including bitch, irritating, complain, and pester.
We don’t do that. No, we are not pestering. Our husbands, and fathers of our children are expected to do some heavy lifting. We often have to request help, even when we don’t want it. It would be much better if you could just see the mess in the kitchen. You can also smell the diaper to see if it needs changing. They don’t do it often enough.
It’s not even their fault. Men don’t look at everything the way women do. The men don’t possess the same motherly instincts, ears or nose as we do. They may not wake up to a crying child because they can’t hear it. You have to poke their arm, roll them over, and ask Hey, can you get the baby please? My ears are different from my husband’s.
It makes me angry that women think they cannot ask for assistance because they do not want to “nag” their husbands. It’s probably us who allowed the stereotype to grow. We were afraid of becoming the pushy wife stereotype that a few men had created.
There is a big difference between the angry mother in your head and that mom who reminds you I changed 18 diapers this week for each one you have. You can say, “I’m tired and need to rest. Could you please take care of the lunch while I do?”
Do not huff and puff and slam doors to make your husband realize that you would like him to prepare nighttime bottles. Ask him, don’t wait until he figures it out. You’re not nagging.