You’ve probably heard that “When mama isn’t happy, nobody’s happy.“. I don’t think the wife should be the sole provider for the happiness of her family (that would be a lot to ask), but if the mother feels content, happy and free of stress, then it will flow to the rest of the family.
We care about the happiness of everyone, but we want to talk for a moment with husbands. You see your wife as grumpy and stressed out a lot of the time. You could be right. Maybe she is. You don’t know how powerful you are to correct that.
The take responsibility.
You are not taking enough responsibility if you let your wife take care of everything in your home. You will have a miserable wife if she does all the chores and pays the bills, manages the budget, cleans up the house, does laundry, packs lunches, takes baths. She is tired and people who are exhausted don’t tend to be very happy.
You are also responsible for our family and home. You can do some of the things on her list yourself if you haven’t already.
The laughter they get from them is infectious.
It is important to laugh because it does many things. It relaxes you, releases endorphins, and burns calories. Laughter is the best way to keep your wife happy.
Not funny? It’s okay, not everyone can be a comedian. You don’t have to. You can make an effort to laugh with your spouse (you too need laughter!) You can also do it in other ways.
Netflix has a lot of funny comedy specials. Pick a new comedy special to watch every week or two. Why not plan out some time to laugh as well? We schedule our times for the gym, and grocery shopping.
You can also find some great comedy clubs across the country. You can make it a date every now and again if you find one nearby. It’s good for you both to laugh.
They are their supporters.
All of us need support. We want to be heard if we disagree with a colleague. We want you to and not suggest a bakery when we want to bake our children’s birthday cakes from scratch. We want someone to tell us, ” Of Course, You Can Run a Marathon! ” when we say something like ” I know, next year, I’d like to run a full marathon. “
How many times have I said in my 30s that I wanted to go to lawschool but felt like I was too old or not smart enough to do so? Many times. Do you know what my wife has always said to me? He says I can go to law school without any doubt. Is he insane? Yes. If I sign up for the LSAT, he’ll wish me good luck.
It is important to feel supported. It is important to have the courage and strength to dream without someone squelching it.
Just do it.
They say nice words.
What a simple statement! Duh, they say nice things. Think about how many times you have told your wife to thank you for the dinner you made or that their lipstick looks good on her. When was the last time that you told your wife she is a wonderful mother?
You’re not a jerk if you don’t do these things. It just means that you are probably caught up in the daily grind and on autopilot. All of us forget these little things.
She wants to be loved and desired just as much as you do. Women’s love language is often words of affirmation. We will feel loved when you say nice, uplifting things. How easy is it to do that? It’s literally as simple as opening your mouth and saying words.
Let them be themselves
This is the part I saved for last, because it’s certainly the most difficult. To me, the most important part of marriage is letting someone be themselves. You can’t alter who someone is, and I assume that you are happy with them because you married.
You may dislike the fact that they’re always a bit late. You may get angry when you are on your way to a movie and you end up having an argument.