It is , not on Facebook that I show my love for my husband.
You might see on social media a couple who is happy and posts sweet messages and photos over and over again and wonder… should I do that?
Do I show you my love in a public, loud way? Do I do something wrong?
We tend to compare ourself with others, just like we do on the Internet.
Science is on my side, and I can tell you that:
Posting love messages on Facebook isn’t a reliable indicator of the quality of your relationship.
The people who are doing the oversharing may be unhappy. Studies show people who are anxious about their relationship will be likely to make public reminders.
You will feel less inclined to share your relationship on social media if you are in a secure relationship.
Research also shows people with lower self-esteem who boast about their relationships on social media.
People who are secure and happy don’t seem to be trying to prove themselves.
It is not necessary for me to read a post on Facebook in order to know that my husband truly loves me.
When he brings me coffee, I can see how much he loves me.
The respect that he has shown me shows his love.
His care for my family shows me his love.
Clean dishes and folded clothes show his affection.
You don’t have to completely ignore any mention of your partner in social media. Not at all.
Last year, I shouted loudly from my roof that we had made it ten years in marriage. Hey, it was quite a milestone.
Post photos from our family adventures.
It’s important not to include that in your relationship, and it does not mean that the people who post regularly are happier than you. It’s often the exact opposite.
Post what you want to post and don’t compare yourself with others. No comparing.